There are some words that you've never heard before, but the minute you hear them, you know exactly what they mean.
My daughter was telling me about a conversation she had with some friends. R. (he) and E. (she) are close friends, and someone else told my daughter that R. is gay.
"He is?" my daughter said. "I didn't know."
"How could you not know?"
"I don't have gaydar. It was never installed."
The minute my daughter said the word, I knew what she meant. And it's the most perfect word for that meaning, because it's concise and precise at the same time.
I think she inherited her lack of gaydar from her mother.
For me, a person's sexual orientation is as obvious to me as corporate politics is: I have to be smacked over the head with it (or be told outright) before I even notice.
On this season's Project Runway, I knew that Christian was gay, because he made himself so flaming you couldn't miss it. Chris was also more in that camp. But it wasn't until Kevin said he was the only straight guy on the show that it occurred to me that Rami must be gay too.
It's just not something I ever think about, because really, what does it matter in day-to-day life? It doesn't. My mama raised me to be nice to everybody, and that's a lesson I actually learned pretty well (Thanks, Mom!).
Still, I love finding a new word that's this beautifully perfect. Gaydar is so much better a word than Nomophobia.